I Had to Start Over

After my daughter started all star cheerleading my life slowly started spinning out of control. If you have never had a child in all star cheer I will fill you in. She is at the gym eight hours a week for practice and tumbling. Also starting in November until April we travel almost ever weekend for competitions. Now take all of that and add two more children. One baton twirler who also has competitions and a sixteen year old boy who ...well he is a sixteen year old boy. lol

I am a person who becomes easily overwhelmed. I am also put myself under a huge burden of being perfect at everything too. So let me paint the picture. I babysit a 16 month old Monday to Friday 8-5:30. I run children to activities every evening until around 9pm. Then every weekend we travel for competitions. Plus I have a house to keep in order where five people live. By the time April came around I was at near breakdown stage. I had fallen apart numerous times, I was never able to relax or have down time, and I felt the need to be perfect at everything. 

Also I can not say no so I am adding more to my plate all the time from church activities to whatever.

Finally I fell apart. There had to be a better way. 

Here is what I have started doing to lighten my load for the new year.

1. I am learning to say no. To my children and to others.

2. I am creating healthy boundaries.

3. I have deleted a bunch of facebook friends. 

 This isn't because I don't like them or anything like that. Many were old acquaintances that I didn't even talk to on facebook or in the real world. I just cut out the clutter. 

I am still working on lightening my load but I will tell you the main thing that I have had to do. I had to sit down and figure out what my goals were.  I had lost sight of what I was doing. I lost sight of my priorities. 

Here are my priorities

1. My God. 
I wasn't even doing what I always felt he had called me to do. Which is be a wife and mother.
I had also stopped going to church because Sunday was the only day I had free sometimes and I was so exhausted.

2. My husband.
We lost all deep and meaningful communication. It consisted of who was going where most days. I didn't see him much even though he worked at home and his home was in chaos most of the time.

3. My children. 
They were getting to their activities but most of our family time was spent in the care.

4. Everything else.
Everyone else and impressing them with my supermom powers had moved up to top priority and that is not where it should be.

One of the best things that has helped me is reading this book.



You can find it on Amazon. This book is exactly what I have been needing!

I hope this helps someone like me. 
I would love to hear your comments.


Blessings,