Fallapartitude

Like my title? It came from Doc McStuffins. Lol I tend to have fallapartitude. I don't do anything small. I wait till I get super overwhelmed and then I freak out and fall apart. Then I throw up my hands and quit? Does anyone know me else have this problem or is it just me? I need to start eating the elephant one bite at a time and stop trying to shove the whole thing in my mouth at once. Lol

When i woke up this morning I had a major melt down. I screamed in my head. Why can't I keep my house clean? I am a terrible mother. Why does everyone else seem to have this all figured out. Oh and tip don't search overwhelmed by housework on Pinterest. It isn't really helpful. Lol So here is what I have realized.

1.  Find what works for you and do it. There is no cookie cutter way to be a good housewife. Everyone is at different stages with different challenges. I babysit a 2 year old. He fills my day. It's hard to clean with a two year old. This is a challenge. I also have two girls in competition cheer. My evenings Monday through Friday are spent at the cheer gym. That is a challenge.

2. Make a schedule. Don't be super rigid. Just an overall goal. It helps. As a stay at home mom I get lazy. I think to myself that I have all day to complete a task. I tend to sit and cuddle with the two year old and put off tasks.

Oh and build cuddle time and down time into your schedule.  You aren't a machine.

3. Use a calendar. My schedule is so chaotic I can't live without my calendar. Check it each morning and each evening and don't say yes to anything until you check your calendar. Also make sure you give yourself days off. Make sure you have a day with nowhere you have to be once in awhile. I tend to over schedule because I hate to say no. However, if I don't have a down day now and then I will get overwhelmed and fallapartitude rears its ugly head.

4. Keep it simple. I love all of the cool ideas on Pinterest but I can't do everything. Most people don't really care that much how fancy you wrap something or how cool your item for the gift bags are. They are just happy you did something. Use your talents and be yourself. 

5 . Know your limits. Don't try to be anyone but you. I will never be the mom with perfect hair and makeup and jewelry. I have my own gifts. I am the Mom who will make you laugh with tales of her chaos.  

6. Life is short. Live Well, Laugh Often, Love Much.  Children grow up fast. They will remember the moments you spent with them and laughter way more than how fancy your crafting was or how awesome you cleaning is. I was at the cheer gym and this sweet little six year old asked me what I was doing. I said I was reading a book on how to keep my house clean. She said"  Why are you doing that? Our house is messy and I love it!" Keep this in mind. My motto is I want my house clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy. 

So there are my tips for avoiding fallapartitude. 

Blessings,